Friday, May 24, 2013

Slowing Down For Summer

I apologize for the silence here on the blog this week.  Thanks to each and every one of you that offered your prayers and kind words on behalf of our dear friend's 6-year old son Grant (I was also Grant's nanny when he was a baby). 


He passed away peacefully and without pain last Friday and fortunately, I was able to make the wake and funeral Mass on the east coast earlier this week (thanks to an amazing husband who was willing to man the fort alone through last day of school programs and end of the year teacher's gifts).   It was devastating and beautiful all at the same time...and also rocked us to the core.  It left us reevaluating how we've allowed our priorities to shuffle out of place. 

I've spoke openly about how much time and commitment the blog takes (and I'm not even a big blog!).  I've had dreams about growing it and expanding but I know that will require even more.  To be quite frank, my family pays the price.  Our time together gets cut short and I'm not fully present when I'm with them because I'm either trying to double task or my mind is constantly on the next post/project, site enhancements, blah, blah. 

In a totally random email, a local woman contacted me for some color help in painting the exterior of her home.  It's been a wonderful experience and working with local clients is something I would love to do.  It certainly got me even more excited about some of the things I had planned for the blog this summer.

Then Grant's accident happened and time stood still.  It's amazing how one event can move other people in so many different ways.  Grant's tragic death was a wake up call for the time with my children that I've been giving away.  They will not always be this young, they will not always be home with me, and they will not always be here.  But they are right now and we want to make the most of this time together. 

The school year is such a busy time and even before Grant's accident I had been yearning for the slower pace of summer.  The kids and I sat down and put together our list of fun summer activities we wanted to do.  I'll share that in a post next week, but one thing is certain - we plan to make a lot of great memories this summer and simply enjoy being together. 

That means things will slow down around here.  My family is my priority and while I love to share them and our projects, I'm not willing to accept the cost of diving into seriously growing the blog this summer.  I still have plenty of projects on the agenda but those will take the back burner to trips to the zoo and afternoons on the slip n slide.  I'll definitely be sharing our house progress as I go along, but not at a pace of 5 days a week.

At first the can't-do-anything-half-way-over-achiever in me said, "No! You need to post regular and often or else all your readers will leave forever!".  But that voice is from a place of fear...fear of letting go.  And I really need to.  After all, it's just a blog right?  :)  On the other hand, I'm too much of an OCD list maker/organizer to just post willy-nilly, so I'm sure I'll fall into a regular, scaled back posting routine for the summer.  If you all are interested, I may share some posts on the changes we are making to our schedules and the way we spend time together too.

Thank you again for your thoughts and prayers over this past week.  I shared more of Grant's story on our family blog today if you are interested.   I hope you all get to enjoy a long weekend with those you love and we are thankful for all those who have paid the ultimate price for our country's freedoms and for those that continue to serve our nation.



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13 comments:

  1. My heart breaks to hear this news. I'm so sorry. Our friends lost their 15 month old 2 years ago and it rocked my world in a similar way. It completely altered my outlook on parenting and how much time I spent with my son. I'll be praying for Grant's family and for you all as well.

    Enjoy your slower pace of summer and soak up all the extra time with your babies!

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    1. Thank you Samantha and I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend's baby as well. Hug em' tight and often, right!

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  2. So, so sorry to hear that. I am so with you on capturing the now with my kids too. Time is flying all too fast and I find myself distracted by things that can wait.

    Here's to many fond summer memories ahead!

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    1. Thank you Kim - funny how those things that distract us can seem so important. It's easy to lose focus. Happy summer memories to you too!

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  3. I am so sad to hear of your loss. What a devastating tragedy. Hold your babies close and cherish every little moment. Post when the spirit moves you, and know that we will be here to follow along, wether it's once a week, or once a month!

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  4. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Deme, and also with Grant's family. I just cannot imagine what they must be going through. I have been thinking the same thing, that I need to cut back on my blog. That it eats into my time with my kids who are growing up so fast, that I don't need to give it up, but that it should not take priority over my time with them (including the distraction that it is even if I'm not in front of the computer). So thank you for your honest post. Enjoy your kids now, be grateful for the time you have with them and I'm planning on doing the same with mine.

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    1. Thank you, Sharon. It's hard to just let it go, but it's worth it. Have a wonderful summer with your sweet ones!

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  5. way to go Deme...it takes courage and conscience thought and effort to commit to our families. time pass quickly.

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  6. So hard to do so much and still feel like you have enough time....I have to remind myself often that all that "stuff I should do" can wait and will still be there. Its so good to enjoy the little things in life while we can. Sounds like you are gonna have a great summer, Deme!

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  7. Deme, so sorry to hear this news. Praying for you and your family. You always demonstrate so much wisdom when you write and I love your honesty.

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  8. Deme, I read blogs to be inspired and a momma who is focused on her family just like I am is super inspiring to me! So thank you for sharing how you are focusing on your time, and I will definitely still check in and read your blog :) Hope your family has a wonderful summer!

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